Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 21

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of May 21 — 27.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Moving

Question: When is the best time to move?

The widely accepted answer is “Never!” But the 21st Century seems to be a period of redefining well-established colloquialisms that don’t always have deserving or even applicable answers.

My lease is up. For the past month I have been stuffing my brand new car (Subaru Impreza, the gayest choice) with things ranging from kitchen utensils to Dalek cardboard cutouts. And let me tell you, it was insane.

Technically-speaking, it wasn’t dramatic or life-altering. Much like the last time I moved (which was from Memphis to Oakland) I downsized. This move has taught me what I truly consider essential, and which items are simply along for the ride.

I’m also moving in with roommates. There will be assigned spaces for food, storage, and bathrooms. There is shared space where I haven’t had to share things before.

The thing that hit me most after bringing up the last box was this: I’m in a new space, and I’m not anxious. Now, I’ve spoken about being neuro-spicy before, and it definitely takes me time to adjust to new living spaces. There will always be an adjustment period for my brain. Along with those time periods are moments of anxiety. My body feels like it doesn’t belong in new places for more than a few hours. But that hasn’t really happened in this new space. There’s still going to be an adjustment where my new roomies get used to me and vice versa. But I don’t feel quite as anxious as before. And there’s something liberating about that.

Writing

I’ve spent the better part of the month of May packing boxes, signing off of social media, and planning the spooky part of my book. To put it simply, I’m amazed to have kept up with this blog series, much less an iota of writing. That being said, progress is being made on Project Madison Flame and the ghost hunting crew that forms a band. And in order to talk about this week’s cryptid, I need to speak on the premise of one episodic story.

There is one episode that has the group going to the outskirts of my fictionalized city of New London, CA. There is a cave system hidden throughout an incredibly hilly portion of wild lands, just north of the city. And there have been rumors of vampires. But what they find is much more than they bargained for.

This is where they come across what is possibly vampires, and what could be shapeshifters. Buckle up for the next section, because I skim the surface on vampirism and its association with diseases.

American Vampires

Vampires are oftentimes thought to be purely a European folklore. But that simply isn’t true! Let’s take our Theater-of-the-Mind Camera Lens and zoom out a bit and shift focus to the Americas. There are creatures from both continents that have lasted for centuries as vampire-like in almost every way. There are simply too many to contain in one post, so I’ve included a Wikipedia link in the headline for further reading.

Vampires have always been associated in one way or another with disease. Vampirism is often believed to be associated with Consumption, or Tuberculosis in particular. There have even been cinematic parallels to vampirism and AIDS.

Yes, AIDS. If you haven’t noticed this trend before, it was especially prevalent in the mid-late-80s. The disease had already been associated with the LGBT Community. Some directors went even further than that by covertly creating the metaphor that if someone had AIDS, they were a vampire. The Hunger (1983) is a prime example of such, specifically with David Bowie’s character who suddenly begins to age rapidly.

Shapeshifter

In more modern times, we associate shapeshifting with it being an ability. For instance, both werewolves and vampires are shapeshifters. But werewolves only change from human-to-wolf, and back again. Vampires traditionally changed shape to more than just bats. Dracula (1931) shape shifts into a wolf and bat, among other creatures of the night.

Like with vampires, I’ve provided a link in the headline. They don’t get as an extensive description as vampires, but that’s likely because this is a nebulous state of being to talk about. There are certainly many shapeshifters in many different cultures (think Loki in the Norse mythology). But it doesn’t feel as specific as, say, Dracula or Carmilla.

Summary

My take on vampires and vampires: they show the sudden and unknowing change from the surface-level normalcy that is our everyday life. The young ghost hunters that want to know if urban legends are true are actually uncovering parts of the city’s history that people have buried in the past. There is an abandoned warehouse that was a makeshift AIDS hospital, but they don’t yet understand what they’ve uncovered when they first find it.

Similarly, being gay was (and unfortunately still is) seen as an abnormality. But the truth rears its ugly head in the form of these cryptids I present in the book. Life is more diverse than we know, and that diversity sometimes encompasses something beyond our scientific understanding. We dive into the unknown because we’re scared and want to understand. And that affects how we identify with ourselves and our environment.

Lesbian Bar Names (End for Now)

I looked at my list just now, fully expecting there to be more. But there doesn’t seem to be any more at present. I’ll have to research more bar names for the future. But for now, I need to rest after moving my life into a new place. Thank you for joining me on this ride of names. I have hopes and plans of continuing this research; especially if I can find the history behind a location. Until then, this mini-queery is finished.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • Subhumans — Found this band via a blue jean jacket with a million patches on it. Pretty rad.

  • This Irrationally Emotional Playlist — Found this on Mix, and had to give it a listen.

  • I recently shared a spooky story to Scared to Death Podcast. I hope to share it here eventually. I’m crossing my fingers they read my story in the near future.

  • Music has been a little lax as of late (one guess as to why from above), but during this week I’ll be on the lookout.


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 17

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of April 23 - 29.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing

Writing has been great in spite of getting a fake interview. I’ve written nearly 10k words in the past week or so. Which is great progress! Last week’s post about power in names was very apt, as I I was swindled out of time by a Multi Level Marketing scheme (what used to be called a pyramid scheme) called Maplewood Marketing. I have been in desperate search of a job for a while now, and they are preying on folks in this exact situation.

SPLLIT Band Live Show

To keep things more pleasant I’d like to switch focus and talk about seeing bands for a moment. There was a band that I met in Memphis, right before I moved out to Oakland, CA. They are currently on tour out West. I had the pleasure of watching them perform live at Thee Stork Club in Oakland. I got to catch up with them and even learned of some more Bay Area bands (below in Pop Culture) that are amazing.

I’ve never been much of a live show type of person. There’s something different about live events when you know the group, though. Please consider giving SPLLIT a listen, as well as the other bands I have linked down below.

Safe Spaces, a series

Last week I mentioned bar names and what power they have. I wanted to continue that discussion, as I am a proponent of names that unify and even signify a community. Because of my experiences, I focus on the LGBT Community bars and, in more recent times, cafes.

Bar names of yore are often cheeky or from an inside joke, among other reasons. They start out as snippets of phrases born from discussions between a few individuals. This grows into a need to create a safe space for others in similar situations. In decades past these safe spaces began as bars, as the focus was on adults. It has been difficult enough to create a gay bar, but even more so for women bars.

The term Safe Space feels like a buzzword started less than a decade ago. But it’s merely a modern form of word play meant for those that actually need to take a break from the attacks they deal with. Everybody needs to have a third home where everybody knows your name, and smiles when you show up simply because you are the shining beacon of light that you are. Families and homes can be treacherous just like school or work. You may be in the closet for reasons only known to you; and that means you need an outlet where you can find people with similar positive values.

I have begun collecting a list of women/lesbian bar names that have largely closed for one reason or another. I have plans on including these names in Project Madison Flame to put these now-missing bar names on a pedestal.


News

Round Robin News

While there has been plenty of shocking news, pearl-clutch-worthy, there will primarily be a shift toward music. Erin Reed has many reports going on, with the Texas Senate going through the toughest legislation. But let’s not forget that political attacks on Trans kids is very problematic. And we can’t forget the attacks on Montana Representative Zooey Zephyr — which, I have to confess my bias, she has a pretty badass name.

Sweet Dreams has a Heart Breaking Origin

We all have dreams. Many of them are on the forefront of the hit wonder Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This) by Eurythmics. Seershamusic on Instagram does a lovely job of covering the story behind Sweet Dreams. This song isn’t just an ultimate ear worm, it’s the culmination of heart break and music combining. Thankfully she has many more reels on Instagram, because I can’t get enough! Link in headline.

Chumbawamba were a buncha Punks!

Chumbawamba was pretty damn punk. They found a unique way to enact politically charged activism. Is there a documentary about bands like this? I would love to watch a documentary about activism through music. I love finding music history where money was raised for good causes. If you, like me, get knocked down, use music like this (or SPLLIT) to get back up again. Thank me later. Link in headline.

Fatnasmic’s Maleficent Catches Fire

Earth Day seemed to be put on halt this year. Maleficent’s dragon form in a show called Fantasmic had a malfunction that caused quite a stir when she caught on fire. The fire started at Disney Land in Anaheim, CA. Multiple videos will be linked here, as these points of view show a bit of what went on. Though to be clear, the cause has not been disclosed by Disney.

Here is the first video I came across. And the second, showing how bad the fire and smoke became as guests were shown the exit. The staff at Disney Land should get a raise for assuring the safety of park guests.

Another user posted this video to show how the show is meant to be viewed. But let’s take a moment to pay more attention to the mouth of the dragon. The pyrotechnic faces at a downward angle, similar to the anatomy of a snake. So it begs the question: how did this occur?

Let’s end this by showing comedian Youth Pastor Ryan and his news-breaking take on Mickey’s power. So which is scarier, Maleficent catching on fire or Mickey’s power?

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CrqyV8DAAH0/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D

Instagram Reel by @ryankellycomedy


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • Sam McPherson invites his neighbor on his tour.

  • SPLLIT (Baton Rouge, LA)

  • Public Interest Band (Oakland, CA) released their newest album earlier this month!

  • Fake Fruit is another Bay Area-based band that you need to check out!

  • Numb Little Bug, by Em Beihold


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 7

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of February 12 - 18.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing

Broke Ass Stuart

Most of the writing done this week has been in preparation for a potential job. If you’ve lived in the Bay Area for any amount of time (which is about as long as I’ve lived here now), you have definitely heard of the sassy Broke Ass Stuart (BAS for short).

BAS made a call for a writer, part time. I made the most humorous cover letter I could write and sent it to the Editor In Cheap. The Almighty Editors (my name for whomever responded) answered me and gave me a deadline for this week. I’ve answered it.

I have become a Game Master!

Chaos ensued and I stepped up to the plate! This past Wednesday I became a GM (Dungeon Master if that’s more familiar to you) at the New Parkway Theater. The usual GM was unable to attend tonight’s session, and there were about 15 people joining. The backup GM asked me if I could be in charge of the other game. I was more than happy to oblige.

Queer Superhero Novel

While writing for my book has been sparse this week, I’ve still written something. Outlining has been necessary in order to make this superhero story feel like an introductory novel; not just focusing on the main character. Because of that, I’m learning what tropes are expected in order to make something feel like a “superhero" story. Some are obvious (like costumes, the need/want to save people, insane ideas for world domination, et al), while others less so.

I’m introducing other characters. It just makes sense to me to include more heroes while more villains appear in front of the main character. But it still requires more planning to make everything feel coherent.


The End of the Internet?

I just watched a video by Legal Eagle on YouTube that talks briefly (20 minutes is honestly brief for this particular lawyer) about a Supreme Court Case. One that can spell out disastrous things for normal social media things like sharing your next drag show event on Facebook.

He was as brief as he could be, and I have a link to his video. This case is pretty complicated, but I’ll attempt to summarize it here.

A case was brought to the United States Supreme Court. This case dealt with a question that has massive ramifications: is Google responsible for its content on YouTube? This is certainly something that will affect everyone to varying degrees. I will follow this and see where it leads.

Oakland City Hall in State of Emergency

The city of Oakland was hit by a malware attack on February 8th a couple of weeks ago. The police department and other public officials are being somewhat transparent about the issue. They are acknowledging that it happened, but not indicating in what way. This could be a tactic to minimize damage being caused, or to minimize public panic, another reason entirely, or some combination of both.

This story is progressing, as they are still fighting the malware. As much as I’m not a fan of any police force, the police department appears to be the most forthcoming on information.

Oakland Police Dept. on the malware attack.


Mind Ghirardelli Square’s Dust

Ghirardelli Square is a fixture of San Francisco. I finally got to visit on February 14th, where I discovered a lot of the shops are currently closed. There are signs stating they will open up in the Summer of 2023. In just a few months, we’ll get even more chocolate options and see what they’ve been working on!

Berkley Throws in their chef’s hat for Best Pizza

Berkeley claims to have the best pizza in the Bay Area. Is the SF Eater article correct? Please let me know, in the comments or on Instagram! I take this as a personal challenge to venture in the wilds of Berkeley and scavenge their pizza selections.


National News

USA Today continues coverage of the officers charged with the death of Tyre Nichols from January 2023. The most frustrating part right now is that the court system will not start proceedings until May 2023. Paul Hagerman is the lead prosecutor, and is urging the courts to do what is right. Whether the officers are allowed back to work until then remains unclear. They go on to include the defense attorney claiming there should be justice for Tadarrius Bean (one of the officers charged for Nichols’ murder).

This whole situation calls for a complete overhaul of the police department. It has been clear for years that the entire system is questionable at best, and corrupt in every level at worst. But Memphis and the rest of Tennessee would rather kick the can down the road and focus on budget cuts or a new stadium instead of focusing on human rights. Did Martin Luther King, JR die for nothing in Memphis? My former hometown can and should do better.

The New York Times tripped this week

Major backlash has started following a New York Times Op Ed by Pamela Paul called In Defense of JK Rowling. If you decide to read the opinion, go for it. But this is most professional gaslighting I have yet to read.

To quote Bo Burnham: “The backlash to the backlash to the thing that’s just begun/ There it is again/ That funny feeling/ That funny feeling.”

Table Top Ideas

And now for more positive news…

I recently hosted my own game of D&D and loved it! I’m now looking for resources to help make things even more fun. There’s a lot of discourse on what’s better: analog vs. digital content. In the wake of the OGL debacle, the flames of chaos have been fanned as more lovers of lore and character sheets debate on the best way to play a table top game.

Personally, I love digital content. That’s not to say that screens dominate the table during the game. It just keeps things less cluttered. The biggest bonus is that a map (among character sheets and other small details) can be printed out and drawn over a million times over!

The coolest find this week is a fantasy map maker. Inkarnate is a website that allows any Game Creator to create a map to their own specifications. The range is tremendous; from world maps to furniture decorating a building, it has it all. My first impression: this caters to the medieval setting that most are used to seeing in D&D. My hope is that they accommodate other map aesthetics as well.


Color Coded Calendar

Each week I keep track of events so you don’t have to! This is amazing since I’m neurodivergent. But below are events that I really think you’ll enjoy…

Each week The New Parkway Theater in Oakland has a variety of events. The two that I love the most are Drinks & Dragons (Wednesdays) and Trivia (Thursdays) respectively. Check out The New Parkway website for further information on these and other events. You cannot go wrong no matter what day you show up.

Monthly Stuff

OmNomNom Burlesque will perform at Amado’s in the Mission District. This month’s theme is Afro Futurism.

998 Valencia St.

February 25th at 8.30pm


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

This week a special mention must be made to the video below. Tennessee has done a lot of questionable things lately. But something UNquestionable was Clyde Stubblefield and his contribution to Hip Hop, among other genres of music.

A short documentary about Clyde Stubblefield.

  • I love dogs. NYC banned dogs on subways. This beautiful mess happened.

  • I was hanging out with friends after Poetry Slime, and we started talking about bands we listen to. I’ve always enjoyed the more mainstream stuff, but I took notes. I’m in love with these new-to-me bands:

    • Plumander

    • Destroy Boys

    • Illuminati Hotties

    • Japanther

    • Amyl and the Sniffers


Review: Moving

if there’s one thing universally scowled at even more than deciding where to live, it’s moving one’s stuff there. Moving a large amount of furniture and Disney knick-knacks is never an easy task.

Do you move it? If so, how? Or is it best to let a professional take care of it? Are you a minimalist; hoarder; stuck with your deceased parents’ stuff; meaning to declutter? It’s all, quite frankly, overwhelming. And, also frankly, none of us feel like we should give a damn about moving stuff at all.

Author’s note: I like the Gone With the Wind joke “frankly I don’t give a damn” a bit too much. Not entirely sure why that is…

No joke, I moved into my new apartment in Oakland, California on April 1st. A sunny Friday where my biggest priority was to get every box out of my truck and into the new 600+ square feet studio apartment. Thankfully I quickly found an elevator that would allow me to bring my red little wagon up to the fifth floor and avoid stairs. But what about utilities? Where does everything go once brought in? Oh yeah, we don’t have shelves yet. Or the Prince Futon - another story for another day.

Now, where did I put… everything..?

I have never been able to afford a service, but maybe I will once I move out of this new apartment in a year’s time. The service is many hundreds of dollars, but those hunky dudes generally do a great job and get a big house of furniture cleared within hours. I’ve heard this takes a lot of pressure off of a homeowner’s shoulders. I have yet to experience this.

What’s great about trying to be a minimalist while on the road: everything stays packed up and you can forget about it. What’s not great: you now lack certain things like dishes, bowls, bookshelves, et al. But now you get to set everything up.

Oh, and don’t forget that the internet router must be confusing - also a review for another day.

I have yet to hear a story that I would consider truly positive. My own experience in a new city, in a new part of the United States isn’t technically a “nightmare” comparatively, but this still hasn’t appeared without its kinks. I give Moving one star. Or maybe one truck.