Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 12

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of March 19 - 25.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing & Editing & Filming

Outlining is still trudging along with my novel. I’m running into the same issues as I did the first go-round with this book: figuring out the fun little details that lead to the ending. But I’m doing something very different this time around: I’m being patient with myself. I’ve written one novel in its entirety, and it was off/on for five months. And it’s being completely rewritten. This is my second novel that I’m writing to its completion.

I’m preparing to take some tests this week. No, I’m not going back to school. Blackmagic Design hosts a training program called Train the Trainer (aka T3). This certification will give me more opportunities as an editor teacher. I feel woefully unprepared. But maybe that’s just nerves. I’ll have more to update on that later on.

I helped out with Reel Oakland on a student-run film set. It ran all afternoon, we were exhausted by the end of it. But it felt great to help out again and be on set.

There was a lighting issue at some point; we wanted to light the background as a killer drags his victim through a hallway. But the light was seen in the background of the shot! I was asked to move the light closer to the camera, and I did. The light being in the foreground ended up looking even better and more sinister.


News

SF Floods are different from Memphis floods…

Flooding continued to hit the Bay Area last week. There were gusts of wind, torrents of rain, and blocks and blocks of SF and Oakland without power. And when Atmospheric River Bob was bored enough to leave, there was much rejoicing.

A friend of mine came in from Memphis, TN to attend the Game Designers Conference. We hung out on Tuesday when the rain decided to hit us all. When attempting to show him a comic shop, we looked up to realize how dark parts of the city was. It was strange. And a reminder that we as humans don’t pay enough attention sometimes.

Queer Bedtime Stories musician

In the March edition of Queer Bedtime Stories, we had a musician grace our presence with a guitar and some sweet, sweet vocals. They go by Penny’s Luck on Spotify, links here and down below. Their music is as pleasant and delightful as a nice cup of tea. Which is very refreshing, not the least because we’re all addicted to over-priced coffee out here in the West.

Comedian in a Dress

This comedian had a comedy show in Nashville last week. In solidarity, he wore a dress. He joked that he might get arrested, bringing attention to the reality that many will and already have gotten arrested for the exact same thing. I don’t generally like it when a comedian makes topical jokes like this; the difference here is that he must have thought his points through and didn’t really punch down on anyone (except the folks who wrote the anti-trans bills).

International Day of Trans Visibility

March 31, 2023 is an important day, now more than ever. There are people trying to eradicate the existence of trans/non-binary people across the United States. If you’re reading this and think I’m exaggerating, you haven’t read the bills carefully enough and buy propaganda way too easily.

Montana Bill

This article (linked in the title) focuses on a therapist stating that nobody under her care has ever regretted transitioning; with her staying in contact with her patients.

This disproves the 80% myth and claim and even forced a Republican to concede to the point. More details in the article. I do not know author Erin Reed but I do encourage support in her efforts in covering the current anti-trans bills popping up all over.

The unfortunate reality is that there are a lot of people that claim many regret transitioning without any proof. This is why properly researched papers and statistics are important, and why quoting statistics from decades ago can be dangerous regardless of the subject.

Lil Nas X and Apologies

Lil Nas X said something that the Trans Community found offensive, and he ended up retracting his apology on Twitter. In the video above, Cody Bordone covers some conflict resolution tactics that I honestly needed a refresher on. It was nice to see what could be done about real world issues.

I took a Conflict Resolution class in college, many moons ago. If I remember correctly, many of the examples felt made up and exaggerated to fit the module for that week. Something about that didn’t make the class feel all that important.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • Brian Falduto has debuted a new album called Gay Country. I found it funny at times, even though this might be a serious album. My understanding of most country albums are that they take themselves seriously. Let me know what you think! Check it out on Spotify.

  • People still do playlists, right? I hope so, because I’ve started a super-specific playlist for my queer superhero book. It’s only a few songs right now, but I’m always on the lookout for more. This isn’t character specific like Casey McQuiston.

  • McKenna Grace landed on my suggested page on Spotify. The album Bittersweet 16 was off-putting and confusing to me. But once I got into the pop/rock music, I really enjoyed it. Sometimes it’s the weird album art that really captures my attention. Grace’s music is a real bop! Check her out on Spotify.

  • I found Olive Klug via the embedded Instagram post above. It was touching, though unfortunately it’s not on Spotify. Here is her Spotify page and her site.

  • Penny’s Luck is a local artist in the San Francisco Bay Area. I mention them above, so here’s their Spotify page.


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 8

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of February 19 - 25.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing

I ended up catching a bug this week, and was unable to concentrate on writing that much. I don’t feel great about that, and really don’t want to beat myself up over that. So this upcoming week I’ll be focused on outlining.

On top of that, I’ll be planning on some videos for my YouTube channel for the warmer months. So things have slowed down a bit, to the point where I needed to take care of myself. I hope you, dear reader, will take the time to take care of yourself as well.

Besides being sick this week, I’ve also realized that I’m feeling pretty down. I don’t have the bandwidth to read, write (some days are better than others), or do much more than watch TV. I think some of it has to do with weather, possible depression, or other factors. I have to practice patience with myself and take things slowly. Take a step back and look at what I can improve upon. So yeah, there’s that.


Scott Sessions’ Patreon

Before you scroll down to the next session, let me introduce a positive force to you, dear reader. The articles below are heavy and (for many) distressing. This piece is meant for everyone to feel good and spread love.

Scott Sessions has started a Patreon. They are continuing their positive efforts to introduce spirituality in queer spaces. More information is included on the Patreon site, including perks and payment tiers. It’s great to know you can still participate in a post-religious (or “porous”) space in a world where religion is too big a deal.


Tennessee is the Most Conservative State in the Union

Thursday 23 February 2023

Today the Tennessee House of Representatives passed two harmful bills which claim to protect children. The sick people that come up with this are actually the ones who are overly-focused on children and should instead look inward. This is a war against the LGBTQIA+ Community. According to the linked article, Tennessee is the most restrictive state in the United States in terms of anti-LGBT legislation.

House Bill 1 bans medical decisions targeting Hormone Replacement Therapy. The thinking from conservatives is that minors are being forced to transition before puberty. This is incredibly false, overly simplified, and misguided. The people who wrote this have ignored years of research in favor of HRT.

House Bill 9 bans any drag performances taking place on public property. My mind drifts to laws set in place in New York State and others against “dressing as the opposite sex.” Drag performance has long been associated with transgender people and crossdressers. Again, this is an oversimplification by conservatives who refuse to understand others.

Tennessee is an appalling state and I am happy that I left. I now feel like I, a non-binary person on HRT and dressing the way I feel is right, am not legally allowed into Tennessee anymore. Nashville and the TN House have angered a lot of people today, in and out of the state. It is discriminatory to literally ban a specific type of person from living within your borders.

Edit: Chase Strangio posted this video on Instagram the same day that this newsletter was posted. It’s easy to jump to conclusions, and I have been guilty of this as well. Please watch the Instagram video below to gain another person’s understanding of these bills, which is better than my own.

Let’s better understand SB-3 and other anti-LGBT laws in Tennessee.


End of the Internet, Pt. 2

Last week I wrote about breaking news covering Gonzales v. Google. Tuesday, February 21, 2023 the case was formally brought in front of the Supreme Court of the United States of America. According to this Wired article, the Justices laughed nervously as questions concerning the Internet was brought up.

Renaldo Gonzales, whose daughter was killed in Paris, France by Isis in 2015, has fought YouTube to take down videos of his daughter’s death. It’s a confusing matter, a confusing sentence, and a confusing time to be a Supreme Court Justice! And more questions are forming around: Is Google responsible for content published by third party?

Questions like: Is Meta also responsible for egregious content posted by someone in Missouri? This would count toward Facebook and Instagram, since they are owned by the same parent company. This decision will also affect future social media sites. The potential restrictions set in place may not make a future social site worthwhile to explore. Even if you are a private company, an LLC may not be enough to combat this from 2023 on.

This may not be the end of the Internet. But if the Supreme Court favors Gonzales, there will be some strange ramifications put into action. And this will affect how other countries look at published content. Russia has already tightened their grip on content producers by forcing them to throw up disclaimers that they are “foreign agents.” You can find a video about that via this Johnny Harris video here.

If you think that this isn’t a big deal and it won’t affect you, I invite you to consider some leading questions…

  • What about the propaganda against the LGBTQ+ Community in Tennessee, Utah, and other states? The LGBT Community is constantly being silenced because of “religious freedoms.”

  • What if someone has a stalker and will not stop talking about them?

  • What if a woman is recently divorced from an abusive husband and he won’t stop sending open threats on Facebook?

  • What if my abused friends in Memphis can no longer vent about their past abusive relationships? They deserve a voice, too.

  • The black community has always been silenced since being shipped to the Americas hundreds of years ago. Why aren’t they (currently) allowed to voice their own opinions.


Wyrmwood Gaming Allegations, Pt. 1

On Thursday (2/23) I found out about some allegations about someone who was fired from Wyrmwood Gaming. While I know nothing about what transpired beyond the below, I will do my best to cover this story in more details as they are presented.

The long and short of it is this: it sounds like sexual harassment transpired, and someone was fired in bad faith. This was further complicated by covering it up; never a good move.

From what can be determined, both abuser and victim were fired, but this contradicts what Wyrmwood Gaming claims.

For the sake of full transparency on my part: I’ve seen various products made by Wyrmwood Gaming, but have never saved up enough for their expensive products.

Andy Morocco’s Statement 18 February 2023

Wyrmwood Gaming’s Statement


Color Coded Calendar

Each week I keep track of events so you don’t have to! This is amazing since I’m neurodivergent. But below are events that I really think you’ll enjoy…

Each week The New Parkway Theater in Oakland has a variety of events. The two that I love the most are Drinks & Dragons (Wednesdays) and Trivia (Thursdays) respectively. I am officially a new Game Master, and want to help make D&D more fun at the New Parkway. Check out The New Parkway website for further information on these and other events. You cannot go wrong no matter what day you show up.

Local Events

Silver Sprocket Comics is hosting an all-genre writing group on March 5th (Sunday) from 7-8.30pm.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • SF Gate covers a relic of the Bay’s past known as The Wooz.

  • An interesting Instagram Story.

  • Ant-Man & The Wasp: Quantumania


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 7

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of February 12 - 18.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing

Broke Ass Stuart

Most of the writing done this week has been in preparation for a potential job. If you’ve lived in the Bay Area for any amount of time (which is about as long as I’ve lived here now), you have definitely heard of the sassy Broke Ass Stuart (BAS for short).

BAS made a call for a writer, part time. I made the most humorous cover letter I could write and sent it to the Editor In Cheap. The Almighty Editors (my name for whomever responded) answered me and gave me a deadline for this week. I’ve answered it.

I have become a Game Master!

Chaos ensued and I stepped up to the plate! This past Wednesday I became a GM (Dungeon Master if that’s more familiar to you) at the New Parkway Theater. The usual GM was unable to attend tonight’s session, and there were about 15 people joining. The backup GM asked me if I could be in charge of the other game. I was more than happy to oblige.

Queer Superhero Novel

While writing for my book has been sparse this week, I’ve still written something. Outlining has been necessary in order to make this superhero story feel like an introductory novel; not just focusing on the main character. Because of that, I’m learning what tropes are expected in order to make something feel like a “superhero" story. Some are obvious (like costumes, the need/want to save people, insane ideas for world domination, et al), while others less so.

I’m introducing other characters. It just makes sense to me to include more heroes while more villains appear in front of the main character. But it still requires more planning to make everything feel coherent.


The End of the Internet?

I just watched a video by Legal Eagle on YouTube that talks briefly (20 minutes is honestly brief for this particular lawyer) about a Supreme Court Case. One that can spell out disastrous things for normal social media things like sharing your next drag show event on Facebook.

He was as brief as he could be, and I have a link to his video. This case is pretty complicated, but I’ll attempt to summarize it here.

A case was brought to the United States Supreme Court. This case dealt with a question that has massive ramifications: is Google responsible for its content on YouTube? This is certainly something that will affect everyone to varying degrees. I will follow this and see where it leads.

Oakland City Hall in State of Emergency

The city of Oakland was hit by a malware attack on February 8th a couple of weeks ago. The police department and other public officials are being somewhat transparent about the issue. They are acknowledging that it happened, but not indicating in what way. This could be a tactic to minimize damage being caused, or to minimize public panic, another reason entirely, or some combination of both.

This story is progressing, as they are still fighting the malware. As much as I’m not a fan of any police force, the police department appears to be the most forthcoming on information.

Oakland Police Dept. on the malware attack.


Mind Ghirardelli Square’s Dust

Ghirardelli Square is a fixture of San Francisco. I finally got to visit on February 14th, where I discovered a lot of the shops are currently closed. There are signs stating they will open up in the Summer of 2023. In just a few months, we’ll get even more chocolate options and see what they’ve been working on!

Berkley Throws in their chef’s hat for Best Pizza

Berkeley claims to have the best pizza in the Bay Area. Is the SF Eater article correct? Please let me know, in the comments or on Instagram! I take this as a personal challenge to venture in the wilds of Berkeley and scavenge their pizza selections.


National News

USA Today continues coverage of the officers charged with the death of Tyre Nichols from January 2023. The most frustrating part right now is that the court system will not start proceedings until May 2023. Paul Hagerman is the lead prosecutor, and is urging the courts to do what is right. Whether the officers are allowed back to work until then remains unclear. They go on to include the defense attorney claiming there should be justice for Tadarrius Bean (one of the officers charged for Nichols’ murder).

This whole situation calls for a complete overhaul of the police department. It has been clear for years that the entire system is questionable at best, and corrupt in every level at worst. But Memphis and the rest of Tennessee would rather kick the can down the road and focus on budget cuts or a new stadium instead of focusing on human rights. Did Martin Luther King, JR die for nothing in Memphis? My former hometown can and should do better.

The New York Times tripped this week

Major backlash has started following a New York Times Op Ed by Pamela Paul called In Defense of JK Rowling. If you decide to read the opinion, go for it. But this is most professional gaslighting I have yet to read.

To quote Bo Burnham: “The backlash to the backlash to the thing that’s just begun/ There it is again/ That funny feeling/ That funny feeling.”

Table Top Ideas

And now for more positive news…

I recently hosted my own game of D&D and loved it! I’m now looking for resources to help make things even more fun. There’s a lot of discourse on what’s better: analog vs. digital content. In the wake of the OGL debacle, the flames of chaos have been fanned as more lovers of lore and character sheets debate on the best way to play a table top game.

Personally, I love digital content. That’s not to say that screens dominate the table during the game. It just keeps things less cluttered. The biggest bonus is that a map (among character sheets and other small details) can be printed out and drawn over a million times over!

The coolest find this week is a fantasy map maker. Inkarnate is a website that allows any Game Creator to create a map to their own specifications. The range is tremendous; from world maps to furniture decorating a building, it has it all. My first impression: this caters to the medieval setting that most are used to seeing in D&D. My hope is that they accommodate other map aesthetics as well.


Color Coded Calendar

Each week I keep track of events so you don’t have to! This is amazing since I’m neurodivergent. But below are events that I really think you’ll enjoy…

Each week The New Parkway Theater in Oakland has a variety of events. The two that I love the most are Drinks & Dragons (Wednesdays) and Trivia (Thursdays) respectively. Check out The New Parkway website for further information on these and other events. You cannot go wrong no matter what day you show up.

Monthly Stuff

OmNomNom Burlesque will perform at Amado’s in the Mission District. This month’s theme is Afro Futurism.

998 Valencia St.

February 25th at 8.30pm


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

This week a special mention must be made to the video below. Tennessee has done a lot of questionable things lately. But something UNquestionable was Clyde Stubblefield and his contribution to Hip Hop, among other genres of music.

A short documentary about Clyde Stubblefield.

  • I love dogs. NYC banned dogs on subways. This beautiful mess happened.

  • I was hanging out with friends after Poetry Slime, and we started talking about bands we listen to. I’ve always enjoyed the more mainstream stuff, but I took notes. I’m in love with these new-to-me bands:

    • Plumander

    • Destroy Boys

    • Illuminati Hotties

    • Japanther

    • Amyl and the Sniffers