Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 12

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of March 19 - 25.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing & Editing & Filming

Outlining is still trudging along with my novel. I’m running into the same issues as I did the first go-round with this book: figuring out the fun little details that lead to the ending. But I’m doing something very different this time around: I’m being patient with myself. I’ve written one novel in its entirety, and it was off/on for five months. And it’s being completely rewritten. This is my second novel that I’m writing to its completion.

I’m preparing to take some tests this week. No, I’m not going back to school. Blackmagic Design hosts a training program called Train the Trainer (aka T3). This certification will give me more opportunities as an editor teacher. I feel woefully unprepared. But maybe that’s just nerves. I’ll have more to update on that later on.

I helped out with Reel Oakland on a student-run film set. It ran all afternoon, we were exhausted by the end of it. But it felt great to help out again and be on set.

There was a lighting issue at some point; we wanted to light the background as a killer drags his victim through a hallway. But the light was seen in the background of the shot! I was asked to move the light closer to the camera, and I did. The light being in the foreground ended up looking even better and more sinister.


News

SF Floods are different from Memphis floods…

Flooding continued to hit the Bay Area last week. There were gusts of wind, torrents of rain, and blocks and blocks of SF and Oakland without power. And when Atmospheric River Bob was bored enough to leave, there was much rejoicing.

A friend of mine came in from Memphis, TN to attend the Game Designers Conference. We hung out on Tuesday when the rain decided to hit us all. When attempting to show him a comic shop, we looked up to realize how dark parts of the city was. It was strange. And a reminder that we as humans don’t pay enough attention sometimes.

Queer Bedtime Stories musician

In the March edition of Queer Bedtime Stories, we had a musician grace our presence with a guitar and some sweet, sweet vocals. They go by Penny’s Luck on Spotify, links here and down below. Their music is as pleasant and delightful as a nice cup of tea. Which is very refreshing, not the least because we’re all addicted to over-priced coffee out here in the West.

Comedian in a Dress

This comedian had a comedy show in Nashville last week. In solidarity, he wore a dress. He joked that he might get arrested, bringing attention to the reality that many will and already have gotten arrested for the exact same thing. I don’t generally like it when a comedian makes topical jokes like this; the difference here is that he must have thought his points through and didn’t really punch down on anyone (except the folks who wrote the anti-trans bills).

International Day of Trans Visibility

March 31, 2023 is an important day, now more than ever. There are people trying to eradicate the existence of trans/non-binary people across the United States. If you’re reading this and think I’m exaggerating, you haven’t read the bills carefully enough and buy propaganda way too easily.

Montana Bill

This article (linked in the title) focuses on a therapist stating that nobody under her care has ever regretted transitioning; with her staying in contact with her patients.

This disproves the 80% myth and claim and even forced a Republican to concede to the point. More details in the article. I do not know author Erin Reed but I do encourage support in her efforts in covering the current anti-trans bills popping up all over.

The unfortunate reality is that there are a lot of people that claim many regret transitioning without any proof. This is why properly researched papers and statistics are important, and why quoting statistics from decades ago can be dangerous regardless of the subject.

Lil Nas X and Apologies

Lil Nas X said something that the Trans Community found offensive, and he ended up retracting his apology on Twitter. In the video above, Cody Bordone covers some conflict resolution tactics that I honestly needed a refresher on. It was nice to see what could be done about real world issues.

I took a Conflict Resolution class in college, many moons ago. If I remember correctly, many of the examples felt made up and exaggerated to fit the module for that week. Something about that didn’t make the class feel all that important.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • Brian Falduto has debuted a new album called Gay Country. I found it funny at times, even though this might be a serious album. My understanding of most country albums are that they take themselves seriously. Let me know what you think! Check it out on Spotify.

  • People still do playlists, right? I hope so, because I’ve started a super-specific playlist for my queer superhero book. It’s only a few songs right now, but I’m always on the lookout for more. This isn’t character specific like Casey McQuiston.

  • McKenna Grace landed on my suggested page on Spotify. The album Bittersweet 16 was off-putting and confusing to me. But once I got into the pop/rock music, I really enjoyed it. Sometimes it’s the weird album art that really captures my attention. Grace’s music is a real bop! Check her out on Spotify.

  • I found Olive Klug via the embedded Instagram post above. It was touching, though unfortunately it’s not on Spotify. Here is her Spotify page and her site.

  • Penny’s Luck is a local artist in the San Francisco Bay Area. I mention them above, so here’s their Spotify page.


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 10

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of March 5 - 11.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing

Writing has been difficult only because of depression and the constant dread known as Atmospheric River Bob looming over us. That simile of the cloud hanging over someone has been a bit too literal. But I’m not letting this keep me from gettin’ them words down!

I found a note-taking method that really surprised me and immediately picked up. The Zettelkasten Method will seem complicated at first, especially when trying to incorporate this into a digital platform such as Notion. So far this works pretty well with the my Notion. I'd like to expand upon this in a later post, as it deserves its own space for explanation; plus, there appear to be a million videos on it.

I did it. I quit social media. Let me explain.

Last week I wrote about my friend being arrested by police after voicing her opinion about an anti-drag bill. Early on in the week I just couldn’t take all the news (partly why the post was short). I took this manic time to essentially sign out. The only exceptions were to respond to messages on Instagram or Facebook (the two socials left, unless you count LinkedIn). I’m on Twitter, but that’s only watch that empire fall.

I’ve checked them once or twice today to send messages. There were a couple of videos that I watched, and an update on my cousin’s pregnancy (she’s doing great, thanks for asking). Otherwise I had no interest in seeing anything else on there. And I kinda want to keep it that way.

I want to continue this. I feel like some of my attention span has come back. Well, as much attention as someone with ADHD can have.


Even More Expensive Headphones!

Move over, expensive computers! Step aside, American-made headphones! France now has the most expensive headphones yet. I really wonder how much Parker Hall got paid to say nothing but good things about the Focal Bathys Headphones.

Why do we need to keep making expensive headphones. Yes, many of us are audiophiles now, thanks to the like of Apple, Bose, Sony, and other companies. But France wants to beat them to our wallets.

I’m personally pretty worn out with “ultimate headphones” and similar descriptors. We’re just reinventing the wheel at this point. I think Wired is going for a younger audience than me, because I’ve heard the exact same marketing since I got into Walkmans (I’m a 90’s kid, for reference).

I know I’ve successfully made this sound like an auditory conspiracy. But I’m just glad I can focus on smaller things, such as the $800 price tag for this pair of headphones. I’ll save up for a new computer or gaming system for that much. Not headphones.


Local News

Court rejects religious exceptions for Covid vaccines. Even now, after three years have elapsed, some still believe that they get religious exemptions from everything. Well, not today.

Missouri News

Missouri Republican attempts to use a Bill to prohibit the acknowledgement of “sexual orientation” from being mentioned in schools. Her bill is then torn apart by another Republican because of the Bill’s language. It seems she believed that sexual orientation did not apply to a man and a woman.

“She knows full well that the intent of this bill is not to protect kids in a classroom. It is just to discriminate against the LGBT Community, and to parade her Christianity all over the place… She is incapable of keeping her Christianity to herself.”

Brian Tyler Cohen’s video on YouTube.


Color Coded Calendar

Each week I keep track of events so you don’t have to! This is amazing since I’m neurodivergent. But below are events that I really think you’ll enjoy…

Each week The New Parkway Theater in Oakland has a variety of events. The two that I love the most are Drinks & Dragons (Wednesdays) and Trivia (Thursdays) respectively. I am officially a new Game Master, and want to help make D&D more fun at the New Parkway. Check out The New Parkway website for further information on these and other events. You cannot go wrong no matter what day you show up.

Local Events

Queer Bedtime Stories is hosted at Milk SF this Thursday at 8pm.

Poetry Slime is hosted at Milk SF this Saturday at 2pm.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • A friend mentioned a YouTuber in a discussion: Jenny Nicholson. She talks about theme parks and other things. I couldn’t get enough of her video on Evermore (and that’s a big video).

  • I found a new way to take notes today (Thursday). It’s called the Zettelkasten Method, and you can learn about it from this video here. I’m already implementing it to compile my research for video essays.