Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 12

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of March 19 - 25.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing & Editing & Filming

Outlining is still trudging along with my novel. I’m running into the same issues as I did the first go-round with this book: figuring out the fun little details that lead to the ending. But I’m doing something very different this time around: I’m being patient with myself. I’ve written one novel in its entirety, and it was off/on for five months. And it’s being completely rewritten. This is my second novel that I’m writing to its completion.

I’m preparing to take some tests this week. No, I’m not going back to school. Blackmagic Design hosts a training program called Train the Trainer (aka T3). This certification will give me more opportunities as an editor teacher. I feel woefully unprepared. But maybe that’s just nerves. I’ll have more to update on that later on.

I helped out with Reel Oakland on a student-run film set. It ran all afternoon, we were exhausted by the end of it. But it felt great to help out again and be on set.

There was a lighting issue at some point; we wanted to light the background as a killer drags his victim through a hallway. But the light was seen in the background of the shot! I was asked to move the light closer to the camera, and I did. The light being in the foreground ended up looking even better and more sinister.


News

SF Floods are different from Memphis floods…

Flooding continued to hit the Bay Area last week. There were gusts of wind, torrents of rain, and blocks and blocks of SF and Oakland without power. And when Atmospheric River Bob was bored enough to leave, there was much rejoicing.

A friend of mine came in from Memphis, TN to attend the Game Designers Conference. We hung out on Tuesday when the rain decided to hit us all. When attempting to show him a comic shop, we looked up to realize how dark parts of the city was. It was strange. And a reminder that we as humans don’t pay enough attention sometimes.

Queer Bedtime Stories musician

In the March edition of Queer Bedtime Stories, we had a musician grace our presence with a guitar and some sweet, sweet vocals. They go by Penny’s Luck on Spotify, links here and down below. Their music is as pleasant and delightful as a nice cup of tea. Which is very refreshing, not the least because we’re all addicted to over-priced coffee out here in the West.

Comedian in a Dress

This comedian had a comedy show in Nashville last week. In solidarity, he wore a dress. He joked that he might get arrested, bringing attention to the reality that many will and already have gotten arrested for the exact same thing. I don’t generally like it when a comedian makes topical jokes like this; the difference here is that he must have thought his points through and didn’t really punch down on anyone (except the folks who wrote the anti-trans bills).

International Day of Trans Visibility

March 31, 2023 is an important day, now more than ever. There are people trying to eradicate the existence of trans/non-binary people across the United States. If you’re reading this and think I’m exaggerating, you haven’t read the bills carefully enough and buy propaganda way too easily.

Montana Bill

This article (linked in the title) focuses on a therapist stating that nobody under her care has ever regretted transitioning; with her staying in contact with her patients.

This disproves the 80% myth and claim and even forced a Republican to concede to the point. More details in the article. I do not know author Erin Reed but I do encourage support in her efforts in covering the current anti-trans bills popping up all over.

The unfortunate reality is that there are a lot of people that claim many regret transitioning without any proof. This is why properly researched papers and statistics are important, and why quoting statistics from decades ago can be dangerous regardless of the subject.

Lil Nas X and Apologies

Lil Nas X said something that the Trans Community found offensive, and he ended up retracting his apology on Twitter. In the video above, Cody Bordone covers some conflict resolution tactics that I honestly needed a refresher on. It was nice to see what could be done about real world issues.

I took a Conflict Resolution class in college, many moons ago. If I remember correctly, many of the examples felt made up and exaggerated to fit the module for that week. Something about that didn’t make the class feel all that important.


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • Brian Falduto has debuted a new album called Gay Country. I found it funny at times, even though this might be a serious album. My understanding of most country albums are that they take themselves seriously. Let me know what you think! Check it out on Spotify.

  • People still do playlists, right? I hope so, because I’ve started a super-specific playlist for my queer superhero book. It’s only a few songs right now, but I’m always on the lookout for more. This isn’t character specific like Casey McQuiston.

  • McKenna Grace landed on my suggested page on Spotify. The album Bittersweet 16 was off-putting and confusing to me. But once I got into the pop/rock music, I really enjoyed it. Sometimes it’s the weird album art that really captures my attention. Grace’s music is a real bop! Check her out on Spotify.

  • I found Olive Klug via the embedded Instagram post above. It was touching, though unfortunately it’s not on Spotify. Here is her Spotify page and her site.

  • Penny’s Luck is a local artist in the San Francisco Bay Area. I mention them above, so here’s their Spotify page.


Gay in the Bay | Vol. 2023, Issue 11

Queer Intro

Welcome to the Gay in the Bay Blog! I am Josie, a queer writer and videographer that loves to document what I see around me. This started out as a writing blog but has grown to include events that more people should know about.

This post is for the week of March 12 - 18.

Do you have a live event that needs filming? I’m a videographer! Please check out the Sweeney Media on your way to the About > Contact page. I look forward to working with you.


Writing and Film

I’m physically and mentally exhausted after this week. I’m coming to terms with how fast I write (spoiler alert: it’s slower than I’d like), and that is just something I will learn to work with. If I were to create a Writer’s Scale, I’d be somewhere in between Steven King (fast as hell) and George Martin (painstakingly slow).

Writing — I am doing my absolute best to straddle the line between action and having stances. This is a pretty difficult thing to do, since this is my first time writing a superhero novel. But to also include LGBT themes is an even bigger challenge. I don’t want to spend too much time on exposition, even though that helps raise the stakes for my main character. But I also want the MC to start fighting the bad guys, too.

Film — I got the chance to help out with a student film shoot with Reel Oakland. They are a non-profit group that teaches filmmaking to high school students. I recently reached out to see if they might be interested in hiring me to teach, or at least lend my expertise. They are testing me out (my opinion, I don’t know their’s) to see if I’m a good fit. I was asked back for another day of shooting, which is a good sign. Hopefully this will work out. After all, I love talking about and teaching filmmaking of all formats.

This and last week’s posts came out a day late. Sorry! But it’s also because of how busy life has been. This is good news and I hope it will only continue. I would love to need to adjust this blog’s publication because of work. That much would be welcome. (As if writing multiple novels, working on YouTube videos, and searching for videography jobs was enough)


News

Filibuster over Trans Bill

The past few weeks have been stressful and disorienting for many, especially us in the Trans Community. Especially Trans Youth. The following articles are linked in the headings so they’re easier to find. Just as important: They are positive.

I’ve needed positivity lately, and the articles I found this past week were just that.


This is a journal site that provides the abstract of some interesting news about gender affirming surgery. And it is very different from what some politicians are claiming. This shows that there seems to be a lot of bias and cherry picking in the bills being pushed in Tennessee and other states. Link in the headline.


The Myth of “80% Detransitioning”

I found this article on LinkedIn about debunking a myth. The article is long, and my ADHD brain took breaks, but it’s very informative. Erin Reed concisely states why this myth started, who began these unscientific trials, and why these myths persisted. The full article can be found in the linked title for full details. The accounts are massive, and I would not do the article justice by recapping it in this blog.

Transgender youth could not meaningfully transition until recently. Medical care for trans youth was highly gatekept if not barred entirely. Transgender youth were rarely, if ever, afforded any form of treatment.
— Erin Reed

Usually I put a Color Coded Calendar here. This has, admittedly, become a bit for me to handle since I’m not on social media much right now. Still, I would still love to help out any local groups with their live events and help spread the word. Maybe, as the weather warms up, I can help advertise more of these events (and maybe even help capture them on film)!


Pop Culture

Each week I include media that I’ve enjoyed. If you’re a creator of any kind, please email me to be included in this list. I love discovering new artists; from singer-songwriters to upcoming directors, and beyond.

  • This TikToker found new life for her take out lids. Check out her new, niche hobby here.

  • Waffle House has an album record label! Find out here via this YouTuber’s journey and attempt to join the ranks. VIDEO.

  • I didn’t know how much I needed Japanese Funk and Soul until I found this YouTube video.